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Pegging

Pegging is playful, intimate and all about teamwork — a harness and body-safe dildo to explore together.

Every kit here is rated by its Coyscore, our category-aware trust score built from thousands of real reviews across the web — weighted for a secure harness, a flared-base body-safe dildo and beginner-friendly sizing. New to receiving? Warm up with our prostate massagers. We stock body-safe materials only and ship NZ-wide in plain, discreet packaging. Jump to the buying guide ›

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What's a Coyscore? A 0–100, category-aware trust score built from aggregated cross-web reviews — weighted for what matters here. Sourced & updated monthly, never our own star-padding.

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Pegging — your questions, answered

choosingHow do I choose a pegging set?

Look at three parts: a comfortable, adjustable harness, a flared-base dildo in a beginner-friendly size, and a snug O-ring that holds it securely. Body-safe silicone is the kindest material to start with, and smaller is wiser than bigger. The Coyscore weights harness security, base safety and comfort from real reviews.

comparisonAll-in-one kit vs. separate harness and dildo — which is better?

A kit is the easier starting point. All-in-one sets pair a matched harness and flared-base dildo that fit together out of the box, so nothing to size up. Buying separately gives more choice of harness style and dildo size once you know your preferences. Most first-timers do best with a kit.

safetyHow do we peg safely?

Use a dildo with a flared base held securely in the harness O-ring, so it can't slip, and choose a beginner-friendly size. Go slowly with lots of thick water-based lube, keep talking, and let the receiving partner set the pace. Stop the moment anything feels uncomfortable — comfort leads every time.

beginnersWe're new to pegging — how do we start?

Start smaller than you think and slower than you'd expect. Pick a beginner-friendly, flared-base dildo in soft body-safe silicone, an adjustable harness, and plenty of thick water-based lube. Warming up with a small toy or prostate massager first helps the receiving partner relax. Talk throughout and there's no rush.

careHow do I clean a harness and dildo?

Wash the silicone dildo with warm water and toy cleaner before and after use, then air-dry — non-porous silicone cleans up completely. Follow the maker's guidance for the harness: many fabric straps are hand- or machine-washable, while leather needs a wipe-down. Store them dry and use water-based lube with silicone.

deliveryIs delivery discreet?

Always — every order ships in plain, unbranded packaging with a discreet billing descriptor, so nothing on the parcel or your statement gives it away. We ship NZ-wide with free shipping over $60. For hygiene reasons opened intimate items can't be returned, but we'll always make a faulty item right.

Buying guide

How to choose a pegging set

Great pegging starts with a secure harness, a beginner-friendly dildo and plenty of communication. Here's what the Coyscore weighs and what to look for together.

Coy buying-guide card — “Harness, dildo and O-ring”

1. Harness, dildo and O-ring

A comfortable, adjustable harness and a snug O-ring keep the dildo secure and let the wearer move naturally. Choose a flared-base dildo in soft, body-safe silicone and a beginner-friendly size — smaller is easier to start with. Matched kits take the guesswork out of fitting the pieces together.

An adjustable harness fits more bodies comfortably
A snug O-ring holds the dildo securely
Start with a smaller, soft silicone dildo

Coy buying-guide card — “A flared base held secure”

2. A flared base held secure

Safety comes down to the dildo's flared base sitting firmly in the harness O-ring so it can't slip, plus a size the receiving partner is comfortable with. Go slowly, use lots of lube, and let the person receiving set the pace throughout.

A flared base keeps the dildo secure in the O-ring
Let the receiving partner set the pace
Choose a beginner-friendly size to start

The Coyscore ring at 86 out of 100 with sub-bars for harness security, base safety and comfort

3. Communication, lube and the Coyscore

The best pegging tips aren't about gear at all: talk openly, use generous thick water-based lube, and never rush. The Coyscore weights harness security, base safety and comfort, drawn from thousands of real cross-web reviews rather than our own stars, so dependable, comfortable kits stand out.

Communicate openly and check in often
Use generous thick water-based lube
The Coyscore aggregates real cross-web reviews, not our own

Coyscores and quotes are aggregated from third-party reviews across the web, sourced and attributed — shown for comparison, not presented as Coy's own reviews. Updated monthly.

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Pegging — your questions, answered